singleness – unbiblical?

Two things:

1. I am so thankful for your e-mails, texts, and phone calls about my recent posts on singleness. The Lord has encouraged me so much through your voices. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

2. I have been reading a ton about singleness. Just sniffing what’s out there – articles, books, blogs, literary journals. The quotes below have confused me and angered me so much that I can’t begin to gather my thoughts to write. I appreciate the various viewpoints, especially ones that differ from the ostensible fairytale romance of Jim & Elisabeth Elliot, but they are tough to read. Pray for me, friends.

“Today’s singleness is not celibacy-induced kingdom work unaccommodating to family life. No, it’s the result of choices and mistakes by both the individual and society. Today’s singleness is either a lifestyle option or purely circumstantial; therefore, it is largely unbiblical.”

“Because past Christian thinkers rightly understood that biblically excused singleness was a rare exception, they also correctly believed that the rest of us were under the creation mandate to marry in a timely manner.”

“Martin Luther agreed, and believed that the male and female ordering of Genesis mandated marriage for mankind. Marriage was not thought of as optional.”

“I can think of many women, myself included at one time, who might argue, “But it’s not my fault I’m single.” True, most women are not to blame here, as they are not the ones to bend down on one knee and propose. But being blameless cannot serve to validate an unintended outcome.

“Validating singleness categorically only guarantees more singleness. Perhaps it’s time to challenge the ideas that are now in play, especially those in the church.”

“(That) worldview holds real promise for women to achieve their maximum biblical potential, instead of the momentary comfort of flattery. That worldview believes adult singleness, in the vast number of cases, to be unbiblical.”


2 thoughts on “singleness – unbiblical?

  1. Megs says:

    Is there any discussion in this about Paul’s comments on his own singleness?

    • Great question. The argument seems to be based on not viewing Scripture as a whole and acknowledging that out of the thousands mentioned in Scripture, only a handful were single. “Past Christians also read I Corinthians 7, and they understood that Paul was writing at a time of “great distress,” referring to the famine in the Greek countryside and the percolating persecutions taking place at the time. Because of these threatening circumstances, Paul advised that marriage could temporarily be placed on the back-burner. They understood that letter to convey expediency, nothing more. Paul never held marriage and singleness to be on equal planes, and neither did past Christians. Paul acknowledged celibacy (i.e., the supernatural removal of sexual desire) as a God-given gift. He acknowledged that the celibate could be single, but that the single could not necessarily be celibate and therefore prescribed marriage.”

      And of course, the argument of “What about Jesus? He was single” is answered by hypostatic union; he was God and man.

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