Friendship Buckets

“Be the kind of friend and seek the kind of friends that Proverbs speaks of so often:

Godly Friends
Prov. 13:20 – “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”

Devoted Friends
Prov. 17:17 – “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Prov. 18:24 – “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Sanctifying Friends
Prov. 27:6 – “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”
Prov. 27:9 – “Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.”

Also watch out for the deadly kind of false friends that Proverbs warns of and whom Satan particularly enjoys sending to church-plant core groups:

Fake Friends
Prov. 19:4 – “Wealth brings many new friends, but a poor man is deserted by his friend.”
Prov. 19:6 – “Many seek the favor of a generous man, and everyone is a friend to a man who gives gifts.”

Sinful Friends
Prov. 16:28 – “A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.”
Prov. 17:9 – “Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.”
Prov. 22:24–25 – “Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man, lest you learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.”

Painful Friends
Prov. 25:17 – “Let your foot be seldom in your neighborʼs house, lest he have his fill of you and hate you.”
Prov. 25:19 – “Trusting in a treacherous man in time of trouble is like a bad tooth or a foot that slips.”
Prov. 25:20 – “Whoever sings songs to a heavy heart is like one who takes off a garment on a cold day, and like vinegar on soda.”

~ Mark Driscoll

Confession: I am reflecting on 3-years of friendship here in MA, pondering which bucket (read: category. Still influenced by my former boss’ jargon. :)) of friend I have been to each of them. Honestly, it’s depressing. Because, mostly, I have been absent.


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